Life has a way of isolating people at times and showing them who they really are. What would you do and continue doing if you had no encouragement or support? What would you continue to do if everyone was against you and said that your goals were unrealistic?
Would you continue fighting or would you just give up? There will be many times in life, when this will very well be the situation. People will not understand you, and you will find yourself isolated. It is in these moments when you will find your true character. Are you a quitter? Do you depend so much on others motivation that when it is gone, you get discouraged and quit?
I am reminded of the Bible story of David when he was at Ziklag. He and his soldiers had left Ziklag to fight an enemy and upon returning to Ziklag, found that another enemy had burned their city and taken their women and children captives. At this point, the men weary and tired turned against David wanting to stone him.
David could have retaliated or given up, but instead he encouraged himself in the Lord and sought His guidance. The story ends triumphantly with David leading his men to regain their captives. It could have had a much different ending though if David had not decided to turn to God and find his encouragement there.
If you plan to go anywhere in life, you must learn to motivate yourself. You need to have a solid foundation upon which you will build your life. You cannot motivate yourself on something that you are not sure if you agree with it, or if you are not sure you should really be doing it at all. This is where the Bible comes in for me because it gives me a clear and firm foundation to stand upon. Having a relationship with God allows me know His purpose for me. Having a firm foundation and knowing my purpose in life, allows me to be able to motivate myself.
Some people get discouraged so easily because on of these elements is missing. So before you can begin to go anywhere these two questions must be answered: What do I believe about life?. What are my morals, my goals, my ambitions and what are they based on? The second question is this: Who am I? Why am I here, and what is my purpose? Once these two questions are answered you have a foundation so that when everyone is gone and you are left alone, you can motivate yourself.
Another problem people have with motivation is that they just don't feel motivated. Our culture is based primarily off emotions which is why we often hear this saying," If it feels good, do it." There are so many things wrong with that statement, but I just want to focus on one. If you say to do something if it feels good, you are also saying that if it doesn't feel good, don't do it.
One tricky thing about feelings is that they are controlled by your thoughts and actions. Feelings are a product of thoughts and actions, not the source. So in essence, if I want to change my feelings, I need to first address how I think about the matter.
Secondly, I would want to adapt my actions to my new thinking pattern, and in return my feelings will follow. For example, I have heard many people say," I just don't feel motivated to exercise." First order of business: thinking. Why do I need to exercise? Am I on an exercise routine because my doctor says I am overweight? Am I having difficulty doing daily activities because I lack the endurance? Let's just say I am overweight and it is affecting my health in a serious way, but I don't feel motivated to exercise.
New thinking: I love my family and want to be around for a long time to enjoy them. I will do whatever it takes to make my body healthy so that I can live life to the fullest with them. New actions: Every day I will wake up and exercise because I want to be healthy for my family. This in turn will make me feel good about myself because I working on my goals. After a little while, I will become motivated to continue. Motivation is an after effect, not something I will have prior to my goal. I have to create my own motivation.
All in all, there will be many times you will face obstacles alone. This is when you need to step back, find out why you are doing it in the first place, assess your thinking, adapt your actions to your new thinking, and in return you will motivate yourself. Don't wait around for others to motivate you! Just go out there, and do it! Be that leader and innovator that you were born to be!